Yes, it is common to have doubts, be anxious or nervous. Many of the anxieties experienced reduce or completely disappear over time. Discuss any concerns you have with your partner, close friends or family, known donor or your counsellor.

Here are some questions to think about before testing or if you’ve done a test:

• What do you want to achieve out of this process?
• Do you have somebody to support you in an independent, neutral way?
• Have you applied for records that might help you, such as information from VARTA’s donor conception registers?
• Are you aware of all the possible outcomes and have you thought about how you might react to these?
• How will you respond to unexpected contact from a genetic relative?