Finding out you were donor conceived

I found out at age 12 that I was donor conceived. My parents sat my brother and I down one evening and told us that my father was unable to conceive naturally, so they decided to use donor sperm. Finding out was pretty confronting...it shook my sense of identity to learn that my life wasn’t as storybook perfect as I thought it was - that there was something a bit different about us.  Hayley

Some people are told that they are donor-conceived when they are young children, others find out when they are teenagers or as adults. Some are told by their parents in a loving, supportive way; others learn at a time of family conflict, from others, or as a result of DNA testing.

Tip

Regardless of how and when you find out, it may help to talk to a VARTA counsellor, or attend VARTA's donor-conceived adult network group.