The emotional impact of donating

"Most of my concerns weren't about the process itself; it was more about how we would deal with it in the years to come. How would her donor-conceived child cope and what would be my role be? So there were lots of conversations about what sort of contact would we have, and how they would talk about this with their child." Kylie

Impact on you

 It is important to consider:

  • How you might feel towards a child conceived from your donation knowing you have no legal rights or responsibilities?
  • If you do not know the recipient parents, how would you feel if they have different values and ways of parenting from your own? How would you feel if you were contacted by them or the person born as a result of your donation?
  • Consider what kind of contact or information you might be prepared to share if a parent or offspring applies for information about you.
  • If you know the recipient parents(s), how might donating affect your relationship with them?

One sperm donor's personal story: Ian's story

My decision to be an egg donor: Kylie's story

Your nearest and dearest

  • How will this affect your children, and extended family? They will also be genetically connected with the person conceived as a result of your donation.
  • Is your partner comfortable with you donating? There are implications for them also - particularly if you have children together or if, as a couple, you are unable to have children.
  • How will you tell your children and family and friends? The earlier your children know about your donation, the easier it is for them to accept and understand this.

Talking to your children about being a donor: Stuart's story

A donor's wife's perspective

Impact on those close to you

Tip

You will have a chance to explore the emotional implications of donating with a clinic counsellor before donating. If you are donating privately to a known recipient (home insemination), it is highly recommended to seek independent counselling and legal advice before proceeding.