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Donor conception

Sperm donor meets the family created from his donation

Listen to this interview with Adrian, a sperm donor for single mother, Dianne.

“When we were approached by the registry to make potential contact by the donor family it was a difficult decision. It was just that we had to consider how we would link and the possibility surrounding meeting the donor family into our lives at that given time.” Adrian decided he would give consent to release information about himself and he is glad he did.

Donor conception, Donor conception register services

Talking about your donation

Prior to 1988, sperm and egg donations were practised anonymously. Donors and parents who used the donations rarely told others about their experience. As society has changed and become more open, the law and this practice in Victoria has changed. Parents are encouraged to tell their child about how they became a family with the help of a donor. Donors are counselled in treatment clinics to be open about their donation to their partner, children, and extended family - especially as donor-conceived people or their parents are able to apply for information about them. 

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Donor conception

Talking to children about being a donor

Listen to this interview with Stewart and his children talking about being a sperm donor.

“My advice would be to tell. Certainly it’s never as bad as it seems to give this information to other members of your family.  You know, I think, you couch it in as simple terms as possible, give as much information as you feel comfortable with and let them absorb it and let them if they want to come to you with anything else they will." Stewart.

 

Published: April 2014
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Donor conception

Talking to young adults about their conception

Headline: Talking to young adults about their conception

Barbara and Lauren (mother and daughter) tell their story of donor conception.  

Barbara, after nearly quarter of a century of keeping the secret of her daughters' conceptions, tells them they are donor conceived.  
Lauren, who was 21 when she was told of her conception, tells us her experience of being on the receiving end of this news. 

Photo of Lauren and Barbara 

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Donor conception

Talking to young children about using a sperm donor to become a family

Jacqui and Sarah provide us with their thoughts and experiences in talking to young children about how they used a sperm donor to become a family.

“It’s understandable to be apprehensive, of course it is.  It can be quite a scary and challenging thing but in the end the important thing is tell kids early.  I think that it’s really important; it’s something that they always know.”

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Donor conception

Talking to your children about using an egg donor to become a family

Listen to this interview with Kim and her children talking about using an egg donor to become a family.

"I’m Kim, I used an egg donor for my 11 year old twins.  And I have a genetic son who is 16".

 

Telling about donor assisted conception
Author: Infertility Treatment Authority
Published: April 2006
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Donor conception

Telling about donor assisted conception

This report from the Infertility Treatment Authority, Victoria, presents results of interviews conducted with donor-conceived adults, parents who are recipients of donated sperm or eggs, an egg donor, and infertility counsellors; 34 people in all. Discussion focused on telling donor-conceived people about their conception and resources that would assist parents and donor-conceived people to manage the information.

Telling it your way - book cover
Author: Magie Kirkman, Doreen Rosenthal, Louise Johnson
Published: August 2007
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Donor conception

Telling it your way

A guide for parents of donor-conceived adolescents.

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Donor conception

Telling others about donor conception

Advice from an experienced mother of donor egg twins and clinical psychologist Kim Paleg.
Kim stresses that there is a difference between privacy and secrecy. The more she told others; the easier it became. Over time it stopped being Kim’s story and became her twins’ story and it was they who could choose if and whom they would tell.

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Donor conception

Telling their son about donor conception

Despite having their sons in the secretive era of donor conception in the1980’s, Kerry and her husband Greg had concerns that their story would come out later and so chose to be very open with their sons and their extended family from the start. They are so glad they did as a recent medical diagnosis requiring a bone marrow transplant would have revealed the secret at a very traumatic time.

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