Together

Together

Photo: Lisa White
For us both the use of a donor was a very considered decision for the kid’s conception

The pursuit of a family as queer single women involved much consideration and intention. We are two dear friends who have been on this journey together. Our friendship allowed us to talk debate and discuss the possibilities and processes to imagine becoming parents. For us both the use of a donor was a very considered decision for the kid’s conception. The journey of decision making and deliberation is kind of behind us now as G is two years and Mr. T is three years old, these are our donor-conceived children. The kids are nine months apart.

Parenting wild toddlers takes center stage of the friendship. Within this we try to grow our children with intent and consciousness. Their donor origins are different with some similarities; both donors were committed to openness and honesty, this was so important, and both identify as gay men which fits for us both creating queer families for our kids. The kids call each other brothers.

The next steps in our kids’ story will be soon theirs to tell and we are both working to equip them with the information and support to stand strong, proud and loved in their donor origins. This photo was a beginning step in that process of openness and love. 

- Alyssha Mary & Emily (with Mr T & G)