The dream of being parents

The dream of being parents

Photo: Moira Callegari
There were quite a few hurdles and you learn not to get your hopes up with each step

It’s been a long journey to get to this point. We found out initially that we needed assistance in December 2012. Daniel had a couple of operations. They were invasive open biopsies to try and retrieve sperm and they did a couple of egg collections. None of that was successful and then we went through the donor program. It was exciting when we found out we were pregnant especially because it had taken so long. There were quite a few hurdles and you learn not to get your hopes up with each step.

In deciding on the donor, we took our time reading through the five options we had. And just the wording that this particular male put into his answers and the thoughtfulness, it was descriptive, very loving and thoughtful. And similar characteristics and similar height to Daniel, as well as similar hair color and skin tone. Similar interests with the automotive, car sports.

We haven’t as yet thought of how we are going to tell them (their child of their donor conception). We need to get through the pregnancy first and birth. They usually recommend to tell in simple terms and as young as possible, as much as they can understand. Children are pretty open, pretty adaptive. We are open to them finding their donor; it’s up to them if they want to find their biological father. You get some of the medical history through the donor program but its very important. And the curiosity of the child, if they felt that they need to look into it further, we would encourage and support them and be open to it.

"I don’t have any children of my own but would like to see someone have the dream of being parents that really want to but can’t do it without help. I know you will have a loving mother and father that are longing to welcome you to their lives and will love you very much. I hope and wish you have a wonderful childhood and grow up to be a caring and responsible adult. I don’t know if we would ever meet but I wish you all the best. I hope you reach your goals and dreams in life" - Donor