I never thought there was anything to be gained by secrecy
When we students first donated we were told that the chances of live births were virtually Zero. They said they were very much in the early clinical stages and sperm was to be used mainly for experimentation and process work. After I had dropped out of uni and gone back to Ballarat, the clinic called wanting some further blood tests. At this point I hadn’t donated for quite some time. When I went to the clinic they told me there was a baby on the way as a result of my donation. This was a game changer for me. It changed what was a bit of an altruistic act into something very personal, and very real. I think I went from being a donor to something else, but that something else wasn’t a dad. I had never considered the idea of a live birth. I was glad I had assisted a couple that needed help, but at the same time I felt a bit sad and empty.
I put myself on the register at the age of 35, as soon as they changed the legislation. Chant and I were both on the register and that’s how we found each other. I never thought there was anything to be gained by secrecy. Chant had the right to meet me. To me it was a human rights issue. Chant’s mum gave me a little photo album, which is a treasured possession of mine, of Chant’s growing up times and some of the pictures of her from Japan and school and other things.
Meeting and getting to know Chant has been one of the greatest highlights of my life.